Friday Finds & Feels #18
A weekly collection of discoveries, musings, and moments that have sparked something in me this week. May these small moments of joy, inspiration and thoughts light up your weekend
This Week's Joy: Being gathered with 18 beautiful souls to sing, connect, express gratitude, share intentions. Singing under the full moon, with hearts full, rooting into the deep knowing that we are all connected. When women come together, the energy is palpable and beautiful things are created.
Something to Ponder: So, I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. About love. About loneliness. About the way we’re taught that one person—one—is supposed to be the answer to all of it. I feel like from the time we’re little, we’re fed this story. This idea that one day, we’ll meet him, and suddenly everything will make sense. We’ll feel whole, life will get easier, the loneliness will disappear. But what if… that’s not true? What if what we actually need isn’t him—but each other. What if we put our energy not just in seeking out fulfillment through romantic love but through building community? Isolation makes for good consumers. When we aren’t reliant on our friends, family, or neighbors for support, we’re forced to buy solutions. More takeout, because no one is around to share meals. More childcare, because raising kids is a solo mission. More therapy, because we’ve lost the communal spaces where we process life together. More self-help books, because we think the problem is us, when really, we were never meant to do life alone. What if we stopped waiting for him and started investing in them? What if we prioritized friendships with the same effort and energy we put into dating? What if we built intentional, communal support systems, instead of relying on one person to meet all of our needs?
What I'm Exploring: Romanticizing my evenings. I’ve been trying to make my nights feel less like a mindless scroll-fest and more like a cozy ritual. Lately, that means dimming the lights, playing soft music, and actually enjoying the process of winding down instead of rushing through it. I’ve even started reading before bed instead of endlessly scrolling, and honestly? It feels really good. Like I’m ending the day with intention instead of just letting it slip away. What is one thing you can add to your nightly routine to make it feel more juicy and intentional?
A Little Treat: If you are looking for a book that feels like a warm hug, then you should pick up "The Comfort Book" by Matt Haig. It’s full of short, beautiful reflections on finding hope in small moments, embracing imperfection, and remembering that you’re already enough. It’s the kind of book you don’t have to read all at once—just pick it up whenever you need a little reminder that you’re doing just fine.
In My Journal:
A short and sweet essay I wrote this week about giving up.
I Give Up
There was a time when the phrase “she’s given up” would have cut deep. A quiet insult, a judgment passed in hushed voices or whispered between the lines. A woman who has let herself go. A woman who h…
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